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By Ust Yazid bin Abdul Qadir Jawas

According to Islamic teachings, the ideal household is covered households sakinah (tranquility of the soul), mawaddah (of love), and mercy (compassion).

Allaah says, which means:

And among the signs (oversized) - He is that He created spouses for you from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease with him, and make of you a sense of love and affection. Indeed, in this truly there are signs (of Allah) for those who think. (Q.S ar-Rum [30]: 21).

In an Islamic household, a husband or wife must each understand the shortcomings and advantages, should know all their rights and responsibilities, understand the duties and functions of each, do their job with great responsibility, sincerity and expecting rewards and blessings of god a supreme.

Thus, efforts to achieve marriage and households that got keridhoan Allah 'Azza wa Jalla can become a reality. However, given the human condition that can not be separated from the weaknesses and shortcomings, while the test and trial always accompany human life, it is not uncommon for couples who originally lived quiet, peaceful and happy just hit by turmoil discord and strife.

In the event of disputes in the household, then there must be reconciliation efforts (to reconcile). What should be first done by the husband and wife are first mutual introspection, realized the error of each, and forgive each other and ask God for combined liver, facilitated affairs in obedience to Him, and given peace in his household.

If it fails, then there must be a peacemaker of the family of husband and wife to reconcile between the two. I hope God gives Taufiq to these couples.

If've strived for peace, as mentioned in the Qur'an letter an-Nisa 'verse 34-35, but it still fails, then Islam gives a last resort, the "divorce".

Musthofa Sheikh al-Adawi said: "If the problem between husband and wife getting heated up, let them both together to improve matters, seek refuge in Allah from Satan the accursed, and reduce disputes between the two, and lock every door meetings dispute and do not tell it to others.

If the husband while his wife joined angry emotions, let them seek refuge in Allah, ablution and pray two rak'ahs. If both are standing, let sit, if they are sitting, should lie down, or let one of the two, kissing, embracing, and state the reason to the other. When one of his mistakes, let the others soon expect face forgive because Allah alone. "[1]

Elsewhere he said: "While peace is better, as which was spoken by god a supreme. Peace is better for them than separated and divorced. Peace is better for their children dairpada displaced (not terusus). Peace is better than divorce. Divorce is a devil of seduction and including deeds Harut and Marut.

Allah says (which means):

... .. So they learned from both (Harut and Marut) what can separate between a (husband) with his wife. And they can not harm anyone with her magic, except with the permission of Allah .... (Surah A-Baqoroh [2]: 102).

In the Muslim from his Shohih Abdulloh Rhodiyallaahu Jabir bin 'anhuma he said: Rosulullah Shallallaahu' alaihi wasallam said: "Verily, the devil put his throne above the ocean. Then he sent his army. Army closest position to the devil is the greatest cause a scandal to the human. One of them came and said: 'I have been doing this and that.' He said: 'you have not done anything'. The Prophet continued: "then came one of them and said:" It is not I left so I managed to separate his (husband) and his wife. He continued: "Then Satan closer position. 'He said the best job is that you do.' "[2]

This shows that divorce is the act of a loved Satan.

If fears of a split between husband and wife, let the judge or leader sent two people peacemaker. One of the husband and one from the wife to make peace between them. If both are peaceful, then Alhamdulillah. However, if the problem persists between them on the path that has been outlined and they are not able to enforce the limits of Allah (Shari'a and His laws) in between. The wife could no longer fulfill the prescribed rights of husbands and husbands are not able to fulfill the right of his wife, and the limits of Allah be neglected between them and both are not able to enforce obedience to Allah, then when it was his business as Allah says about, which means:

And if they divorce, then Allah will give to each of the sufficiency of His grace And god vast (grace), All-wise.

(Q.S an-Nisa '[4]: 130)

god a supreme say us which means:

The man (husband) that is protective for women (wife), because Allah has preferred some of them (men) over others (women), and because they have provided livelihood and property. So the women who are the morals pious (to Allah) again take care of myself when (her husband) does not exist, because God has kept (them). The women that you worried about nushuz [4] let you give advice to them, leave them in bed (separate beds), and (if necessary) beat them. But if they obey you, do not you make excuses to him. Truly, Allah Most High, Most Great.

And if you fear going dispute between the two, then send an arbitrator from a family man and an arbitrator from a family of women. If they (the arbitrator) intend to repair it, Allah gives Taufiq to husband and wife. Allah is Knower, Thorough.

(Q.S an-Nisa '[4]: 34-35)

Essentially, divorce is permissible according to Islamic law, and this is the right husband. The right of divorce (divorce) in the Islamic shari'ah is allowed.

As for the hadith that says "things are kosher which Allah hated talaq (divorce), that is the hadeeth narrated by Abu Dawood (no. 2178), Ibn Majah (no.2018) and al-Hakim (2 / 196) is a weak hadeeth. This hadith is weakened by Ibn abi Hatim in al-'Ilal rahimahullah, attenuated also by Shaykh al-Albani in Irwa ul rahimahullah Gholil (no.2040).

Although talaq (divorce) is allowed in the teachings of Islam, but a husband should not be too easy this problem. When a husband would drop the divorce, he should think about the serious benefits (good) and mafsadat (damage) which may arise from divorce to avoid long leads to regret. He should think about himself, his wife and children, as well as its responsibility before Allah on the Day of Resurrection.

Then the wife, after all his anger to my husband, let him remain patient and do not ever divorce her husband she demanded. Sometimes a wife who asks for a divorce due to minor problems or because her husband got married again (polygamy) or send her husband to divorce the honey. It is not justified in the religion of Islam. If the wife still continued to demand a divorce, it is haram it smells heavenly, based on the words of the Prophet shallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam

"Anyone who demand that the divorce her husband without any reason that is true, then it smells forbidden paradise." [6]

Abu Huroirah rahimahullah said:

Shallallaahu Prophet upon him blessings and prohibits: ".... And do not ask for a wife (her husband) to divorce her sister (honey), it order to obtain a living.

In Islam allowed polygamy (marrying more than one wife) and this is not to hurt women or do zholim to women, but disyariaatkan to uplift women and respect them. Because polygamy has been prescribed by Allah the Most Just, the Wise, the Compassionate and Merciful to His servants.

Each family was always longing for the realization of a happy home, surrounded sakinah, mawaddah and Rohmah. Therefore, every husband and wife must fulfill its rights and obligations in accordance with Islamic syaria'at and hang out with a fine.

In conclusion, women should not ask for a divorce from her husband for no reason syar'i. To the husband and wife, he must always carry out the obligations of Allah charge him, away from what is forbidden, and always pray to Allah for spouses and offspring who were blessed with pious and Sholihah.

".... O Our Robb, anugerahkanlah to us our partners and our descendants as penyenang liver (us), and make us leaders for those who fear Allah." (Surat Al-Furqan [25]: 74)

1. Fiqh-Zaujani Ta'aamu bainaz

2. Shohih hadith: Narrated Muslim (no 2040)

3. Quoted from Fiqh Ta'ammul bainaz-Zaijaini (p. 87-92) secarara concise.

4. Nushuz that is their obligation as a wife, like leaving home without permission from her husband.

5. Shohih hadith: Narrated by Abu Dawood (no.2226), Tirmidhi (no. 1187), Ibn Majah (no. 2055), Darimi (2 / 162), Ibn Jarud (no.748), Ibn Hibbaan (no.1320) , ath-Thobari in his commentary (no. 4843-4844), al-Hakim (2 / 200), al-Bayhaqi (7 / 316), from Tsauban rhodiyallaahu 'anhu.

6. Shohih hadith: Narrated by al-Bukhari (no.2140), Muslim (no.1515 (12)), and Nasai (7 / 258)